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No Ex-wives, Please

Loud title, isn’t it? Now, when I attached your attention, I will bring you down by saying that it is not that dramatic as it sounds. Yet, this is probably the most personal topic ever to write about. For me, to talk about private life is totally forbidden. Only few people know whom I dated and what type of men I prefer.

I always got well with men, who are 10 years older. They are smarter and wiser, they know themselves well, and they know what they want from life. Additionally, there is a cultural aspect in that. For me, a man should be superior in status, finances, and of course smartness than I am. These are my personal preferences, and they are not the subject for judgements. In the end, we all have the right to choose what suits us.

Needless to say, there are downsides in everything. Usually, such men are devorced, which is totally fine. People meet, they fall in love, and they separate later on. Just a normal life turn. However, I can’t stand ex-wives, when they are mentioned in the conversations, and of course big big ‘no’ for meeting them. Why? Probably, my own insecurities. If a man was married, it means that woman meant a lot for him, she was the one. For me, it means being in a non-stop invisible competition with my man’s past. I will always wonder if the ex will pop up and suggest to re-unite for the sake of the child. I wonder if my man compared me to his ex, of course without saying it to me. I wonder if his feelings for me will be as strong as they were for her. Complicated, isn’t it?

9 thoughts on “No Ex-wives, Please

  1. Your points make a lot of sense. My daughter told me my ex was sharing pictures he took of me in bathing suits on our boat. I felt sorry for his wife who was standing right there. Eventually my daughter told him to give all those pictures away to her and not when his wife was around. I am always very kind to her when I am in a situation where we both have to be there which is rare. I also give her a hug and pray that they are truly happy. I understand what you are saying that would be very uncomfortable. ❤️🤗🦋

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      1. You are, of course, right on all counts. It is her responsibility to set those boundaries. I feel sorry when this kind of behavior happens but I am never there as we live in different states. Personal boundaries are very important. So true my friend. Hope you have a great week. Hugs 🤗 Joni

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  2. People will always have a passed love. Whether they married them or not in not what important. What is important is that you know what you want in a relationship and that the other person loves and respects you. I hope you find that prefect love that makes you happy.

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